Category: Dating and Relationships
Hey everyone. I'm new here to the Zone. Hope you're all doing well.
Anyway, as my topic says, I'm wondering if any of you out there have tried dating websites like eHarmony or Match.com? I'm in my late twenties and have only dated a very small handful of guys. Lately, I've been frustrated because I haven't been able to meet anyone. I'm a college student and am surrounded by members of the opposite sex all the time...but I can still never meet anyone. Well, I finally got fed up with this and joined eHarmony. I'm just wondering if there are any others out there who wouldn't mind sharing my experiences with me. I've been on eHarmony for a year now and haven't had much success, however, I'm still hopeful.
I've tried yahoo personals and an alternative dating site. They worked out pretty good.
Good luck to you in finding that special man.
Thom
I like eHarmony because it seems the safest, and most serious of the dating sites. As in, most people who are there want an actual relationship, not just a hook-up.
I wish I could tell you I've had good experience with it, but I have not. This sounds so cliche and whiney, I know, but I really think my blindness was the cause. If I put in my profile that I was blind, or had my cane showing in any of my photos, I found my matches were closed by the guy before I ever had a chance to act on them. When I took all that out of my profile, I got through the various stages of communication, but as soon as I told the guy I was blind, he broke off communication and closed the match. It hurt for awhile, and then I decided that if a guy was going to be that shallow, I didn't want him anyway.
I've since quit using dating sites. I've been able to find relationships without them before, and I have again.
Thanks for the replies.
Sister Dawn, I feel your pain. And thanks for the welcome BTW.
I actually debated with myself on whether to put that I was blind in that "additional info" box at the end of your profile. However, like you, I decided that I wanted to lay it all out there. I didn't want the disappointment of going through communication only to be disappointed when they disappeared because I told them I was blind. This has happened to me in the past. In fact, way back in the day when I was first using America Online, sometimes I would get IMs from guys who sounded weird. I now laugh and joke with people that it was my man-repellent. I simply and very casually mentioned my disability. This would cause them to ask what and I would say I'm blind and wham! They would be gone before I knew it.
Well, hopefully things will work out for me.
Bookbug